Since I work on many things with my son, trying to help him learn to be aware of his thoughts, needs, actions, feelings, etc., what comes to me spontaneously now is this: Do you have a photograph of you as a little girl? If yes, put it on the fridge's door to look at it often. Talk to that kid, whenever you can. Tell her that others' behavior has to do only with them, not with you. Tell her that "that little boy who kissed the other girl during the school break a few days before Valentine's day , he did it because of a need of his and not because you are not enough. And even if he wanted something else than what you are, this doesn't mean that you don't have a great value. Your value is independent from his action".

Close your eyes and see clearly that little Jenine, let her lie down on your legs and caress her head. Tell her that you believe in her, that she doesn't have to be afraid of anything. Because she can deal with everything.

: )